The Power of Competition

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The Power of competition

I pace the hall. My mouth has gone dry and my hands are sweating in the gaps between my fingers. The audience applauds the current speaker. A minute later my name is announced and I stride to the front of the room before a group of 60 people. The title of my speech is announced. Taking the place I’ve planned out on the stage, I begin speaking. Last weekend, I competed in my area’s division level contest for the International Speech Competition put on yearly by Toastmasters. The third round of the competition, I was up against seven others, each … Read More

5 Ways to Get Unstuck When Your Confidence Runs Out

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Get unstuck

There I was, terrified. I had climbed too high and the worst had happened: I was stuck. I had taken a dare, and now I couldn’t get back down. It was over for me… or would’ve been, if I had been climbing Everest or some incredibly dangerous cliff face. But I was five years old, in kindergarten, and had climbed on top of the monkey bars during a sunny day at recess. Getting up on the bars was easy. I was confident I could do it, and I succeeded. But once I was up there? I was so high up! … Read More

The Secret to Unstoppable Confidence

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99% of people don’t know this! I read this on a sales page this morning for a personal development course. If 99% of people don’t know it, it’s gotta be good! Otherwise, why would it be a secret? We love secrets. We love it when other people confide in us, when we’re let in on some juicy info no one else knows. We’re a society obsessed with secrets… even if those secrets are about to be revealed to us moments later. Just after the break… on the next episode… I’ll tell you about it later… We don’t want it later. … Read More

101 of the Most Inspiring Quotes Ever to Boost Your Confidence

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101 of The Most Inspiring Quotes to Boost Your Confidence

When pursuing your goals, it can get tough.   You might have setbacks, lose motivation, and get frustrated. When times get hard, here are 101 of the most inspiring quotes ever to boost your confidence and help motivate you to keep moving forward. Which one is your favorite? Let me know in the comments.   1. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who … Read More

Why the Hell Does Confidence Matter?

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“Be more confident.” How many variations of this have you heard? “Just be yourself.” “Believe in yourself.” “Grow a spine.” If people think you lack confidence, you’re going to hear this kind of stuff probably more than you like. It’s not bad advice… but it is often useless advice, because many people don’t tell you how. But beyond that, why does confidence matter? What’s in for you? It’s hard to want to build confidence or make a change in your life if you don’t see it how it benefits you and your goals. You might not even want to be … Read More

9 Warning Signs You Lack Confidence

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I never admitted it to myself at the time. It would’ve been embarrassing. Shameful. My friends at the time wouldn’t have understood. I wouldn’t have either, because I didn’t know. Myself and the group of friends I had before college were not what you would call “high achievers.” There was nothing wrong with us, but no one would’ve called us successful. Near minimum wage jobs were our gold standard, and a chunk of us were unemployed. After I finished high school (late, after I first dropped out due to having a breakdown from stress), I took a seasonal job at … Read More

Two Things You’re Doing While Building Confidence (That You Shouldn’t)

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There’s a lot of information online and in books which can help us improve our lives. But what if some of that information, written to help people, actually doesn’t help at all? As a coach, it can be tough seeing things that can actually be harmful reported as facts. It’s easy to miss new research advancements, and worse, if it’s something that goes counter to what you believe, your brain is likely to ignore it because of Confirmation Bias. This past week I found a great article on confidence by a well known coach, and saw toward the end it … Read More

What is Confidence?

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What is confidence

You probably know what it feels like to be confident (or at least what it’s like to not be!) But have you ever asked yourself, “What is confidence?” Take a moment to answer before reading on. If you came up with a single definition that’s a good start! But if you go over to a dictionary you’ll find multiple definitions. When we talk about confidence we could be talking about any one of those definitions… or something else entirely. You might think of charismatic and assertive people as confident, but they might not be. Those two values get wrapped up … Read More

10 Dangers To Watch Out For as You Build Confidence

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On the surface, becoming more self-confident might seem entirely positive. And for the most part, it is. As you build confidence you’ll start feeling better about yourself, some things that used to bother you before might go entirely unnoticed, others might have more respect for you, and more. But there can be unforeseen consequences as well. This isn’t to scare you away from working to be more confident – it’s to help you be aware of some of some barriers that can come up. Whatever personal change you’re going for, these obstacles can blindside you if you’re not careful. If … Read More

5 Key Ways to Be More Self-Confident

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Do you want to be more self-confident? Self-confidence is different from confidence based around being good at something. People can be very confident when doing what they’re good at, but it doesn’t necessarily carry over into other parts of their life. A great salesman may be absolutely confident when making a sale, but he might refuse to step onto the dance floor out of fear of looking foolish. A great photographer may excel on her shoot, but then get a little scared to sit down and write a blog post. Self-confidence on the other hand is deeper – it’s knowing … Read More